Friday, January 1, 2010

"what if" thoughts

If Anna had graduated high school in 2006, she'd be graduating college this spring. Her plan was to major in History and maybe do something in government. I pictured her in the state legislature in Richmond - maybe becoming a lawyer. Or like nearly every other college student, she may have changed her major once she got there. There? Where? which college? Radford? Tech? then we would have been more personally affected by the massacre there in April 2007. What major would she have chosen? She loved music and her history. Would she have gone the 'teacher' route? I can see Anna with little kids, not so much teenagers. She hadn't quite grown into her "assertive Ashley" self.
Or would she have taken a completely different path? Would I have another grandchild? or two? She would've made an excellent mom - just like Jes is. What would their relationship be? And how would Elisha think of his Auntie? Would she have stayed near Danville? Would she have moved away? Would I be sad today because she would've had to "go back home" wherever her home would be? Would she be hanging with Katie in Boston? Arizona?
There would've been heartaches in these past 4 years. Broken hearts. Loser boyfriend(s). Disappointments. Trials and tribulations. But what would the joys have been? Accomplishments. Delights. Sharing emotional good & bads. I've wondered if her road may have been rockier. Drugs. Would her depression have caused different problems? Or would we have been able to manage it? What path would we be on today?
So many 'what if' questions.

I am the proudest mom in the world of Jessica. She has accomplished so much, been so strong, so smart, so absolutely hilarious. She's a great mom, excellent nurse, and she spread much christmas cheer to grinchy old me (or should i say "mii"?). I love you dearly, Jes. I look forward to following you into your future.

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